Ask S&M: Sexy and Shy

Sexy and safe nudes are definitely possible

“Dear S&M: I want to learn how to send a sexy and safe nude. Every time I go to send one I feel like I’m either going to end up with it plastered all over town or that I’ll look ridiculous. How can I make them flattering and secure? Sincerely,  Shy Snapper.

Our sweet Shy:

Sexy and safe nudes are definitely possible. There’s more than one way to send a nude pic, and once you figure it out, the world is your sexy picture oyster. We’ve both done it — albeit, to a range of success — and we’ve lived to tell the tale. 

First, the most important thing to consider is how much you trust the person you want to send the nude to. Are they someone you’re worried might plaster it all over town? 

If so, abort mission.If you’re still not totally sure you can trust the person — think: would I tell this person my pin code and passwords? — if not, make sure you don’t include your face or any other identifying marks on your body, such as tattoos or jewelry with your name on it. Crop the pic to either just graze your top lip or only include your collarbones.

Once you know whether you feel comfortable clicking send, you can still make sure you do it in a way that protects you from any potential backlash. 

Also, beware of taking pictures in locations that are easily identifiable. You have photos of you and your best friends hanging on the wall? Have a backdrop that you often use in Instagram selfies? Make sure to keep that out of the shot.

M once made the grave mistake of sending a nude that included her face to a total stranger and was mortified when she found out the pic had been saved. Make sure you take the proper precautions so you don’t have to enroll yourself in the Witness Protection Program out of sheer embarrassment.

S has been in the same boat. She once sent a nude to the wrong guy on her 19th birthday. Double check you’re sending it to the right person. Twice. 

Snapchat is also going to be your best friend for this mission. You can determine how long you want the person to have the pic, you know it’ll go away shortly after it’s taken and you can see if a (garbage) person screenshots it. 

Now for the sexy side: there are so many different ways to take a pic. You can be clothed: think a lacy bralette, silky boyshorts or maybe a cute dress/top that’s unbuttoned. A snap of some lace peeking out or a booty pic with only ~partial~ coverage can be super sexy whilst leaving something for the imagination. 

Play around with your angles. Mirror pictures will be the easiest for working with lighting and angles, but you can work the over-the-shoulder angle for a sexy booty pic or a selfie angle for cleavage. 

We wish someone had told us the first time that straight on pictures where your shoulders and hips are square to the camera aren’t the most flattering for anyone. 

We also recommend snapping pictures while lying down. This gives you more range to include your whole body and the added implication of you nude in bed will drive your partner wild. 

Here’s for when you’re feeling more daring: a Snapchat video — Kylie Jenner style. Start the video at your mouth or collarbone and work your way down. In ten seconds, you’ve covered a lot of ground that doesn’t include your face and videos are harder to screenshot anyway. Toss a sexy track in the background and you’ve set the mood both audibly and visually.

At the end of the day, take confidence in your body as the sexy thing it is. You’re sexy the way you naturally are. We know it’s cliché, but if you feel confident and sexy in your own skin, that will shine through in the picture. 

Go forth and knock them dead, baby! We’ll be cheering you on from over here.

— S&M 😉 

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